As long as I can remember, I’ve always thought that women gave birth in hospitals, on their backs, surrounded by wires and monitors. Midwives would be there to help you and encourage you, the same as your partner (if you wanted them there!). But why is this considered the norm?
Now that I’m pregnant again, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about how I want to give birth and how the birth I had with Henry wasn’t ideal (I’ll put a link at the end of this with Henry’s birth story). I didn’t think I was traumatised or affected by Henry’s birth but the more I thought about it, the more I think I probably was. At the time, I was just happy to have my baby safe and well in my arms. But a lot of emergency caesarean mums will feel guilt or like their body has let them down. I want to experience ‘natural’ childbirth.
Before I go on, I want to say that I’m very ‘pro-choice’ when it comes to women choosing what they want in antenatal, labour and postnatal care. I’m just going off of my experience as a caesarean mother and that was not fun at all!
I’ve opted for a HBAC this time (homebirth after caesarean) because I think this is my best option, given my circumstances and my previous birth. Obviously, my previous section makes me ‘high risk’ so they’re trying to eliminate every risk possible to make my birth go as smoothly as they can. And something they want to send me for is a gestational diabetes test.
I’m showing no signs of it, no glucose in my wee or anything! The only reason they’re sending me is because my son was a big weight (9lb13). I don’t deal well with needles/blood tests at all so this is my idea of hell. My test is booked for Wednesday and I’m trying to cram in as much research as I can to see whether or not it’s actually necessary.
I know a lot of people trust everything doctors and midwives say and that’s fine..they’ve been through training and have years of experience. But I can’t trust anyone without doing my own research first. For example, my midwife told me that I’d have to have a managed third stage of labour (placenta delivery) where they give me an injection to make it come out quicker. They do this with previous section mothers because the placenta can attach itself to the internal scar. After going away and doing my own research, I found out that this only happens to 1 in 2500 women and this is the statistic for women who have had 4 or more sections! So I won’t be agreeing to the injection unless it’s taking too long!
I’m 28 weeks tomorrow and with only 3 months left, I’m starting to really think about my birth plan. These last 3 months will be spent list making and relaxing, preparing for our new arrival! But above all, I’ll be researching and making sure that I’m at peace with everything the midwives want to do and with how I envisage my birth to go. I know that it might not go that way but I don’t want to have those negative thoughts in my head space! I need positive and happy thoughts!